The Relationship "Change"

Every one has tasted troubled waters in congruence to relations - whether it is starting one, maintaining the existing one or putting an end to the existing relation. When it comes to us, we all want to be in a relation, may be friendship, may be a love affair, a fling or even when it comes to parents or relatives. We want or wish things to be picture perfect as we have dreamed of them. But meanwhile we realize that all of a sudden relations have changed, things that we used to like have changed to things we dislike the most and we still continue to be in that particular state.Things do set to change but how so ever random they might appear to be there is always a hidden plan, the one that we are not able to see. to be precise actually chaos is the status-quo undoubtedly for me. There is nothing that happens randomly, it was always there and was developing, only that we couldn't see it coming. It is not because that we don't want out but we keep on hoping that things might "CHANGE"

"CHANGE" is a very very strong word to believe in and to trust, now to change one thing that i know for sure is that for change to happen we also need to change and that my friends is the most difficult part of the process. How can we start behaving different from  who we actually are to something that pleases the people around us. Relations falter when we start sticking to the same status-quo that we want to maintain and don't want to change.

It happens in every walk of life. Right from our parents who don't change accordingly to the existing situations and just continue to remain in their frenzy past and exemplify things how they were being taken care of that time, to our friends who some times start acting weird as if you never existed and your more to do loving partner starts misunderstanding you for things that some time ago he/she actually loved and made him/her fall for you. Now that is what requires CHANGE. We do tend to change when relations knock us down flat on our back and then we start getting older and wiser and become the ones preaching for things how to be done and handled. We miss the underlying fact that we still have not changed, the effect is momentarily showing its results and in the long run we ought to commit a error again. Now i am not aganinst committing errors, but that there is a difference between an error and a blunder and i guess u guys are smart enough to understand that.

Now how do we get out of this mess, do we need to focus on changing ourselves completely to start understanding the other person to make the relationship work, or do we just get out of the relationship and dissolve it or believe that this is how it was meant to be or sign from god that it was not the right relation---now this is a question that needs some thought. 

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