Does One Heartbreak mean - the end of the Road ???

Guys this is one of the most common things you would come across; a heart break and the end of the love road. Now that's sad, some one else broke the heart and you have to pay for that and the one u love slip away into a shadow of individual loneliness. I am sure this would have happened to you guys, you love a girl who has her heart broken and she won't enter into a relationship or you love a guy who got ditched (but then guys get their screws right after that and eventually if the girl is persuasive enough they fall in for their charms). But today my post revolves around this girl that you love and she will not fall in a relationship with you.

We all have heart breaks whether big or small, we just tend to have them. It's just like a rose with thorns and eventually we get thorns. There are a few that get the rose but they still are few. So actually what does happen - the girls that just had a heart break how come do they make us fall in love with them. Simple guys, wine is better when its old. They get wiser and much more attractive once they have a bad experience. But that makes them even more difficult to get to fall in for you. You know they gain a lot of uncalled experience during that period. But still that uncanny ability and their out going nature makes us just fall for them, their intelligent talks, mature advice, passionate eyes and that uncanny smile makes us go gaga over them. So we tend to fall in for her, we start thinking her to be "The One" we always wanted to be with, spend time together. The problem is that they don't get your point. They don't believe that you are the right guy for them ,even though you think so -they have their reasons to think just the opposite. 

We usually start doing things for them- show them that extra caring attitude, do stuff for them which we won't do for any one else and then that feeling creeps in- you start making them feel special and then your heart skips a beat and tells you to show your love and express your feelings. And what now comes the part you guys don't want to be a part of - you commit your feelings, tell them you love her and she just says - she doesn't want to be in a relationship. She says that you are just a great guy and any other girl would be happy to have you in her life.

Now there comes a point where you start thinking when you are good for every other girl, what's wrong with the one you are asking out. The thing is pretty complex - she doesn't want to hurt, she wants you by her side still but then she has this latent fear of a heart break coming her way again, which she clearly doesn't want. Sometimes girls do say that they need time to think, but then i believe that when you loose the moment you loose quiet a bit, she may come back but then still she needed to think to come to you, it should be instantaneous or take less time clearly not ages. But most often you are left at the mercy of the girl for the sake of your feelings. You start to think then what went wrong, even though you did your best to make her happy and did what she liked or wanted. Then you start to question your judgement and your feelings. That's a time you feel lonely and have an urge wanting to reveal your emotions; you want to vent out your feelings. 

You know in all this process guys we tend to forget quiet a few things, 

a) Girls too have heart and that too broken-you know these things need time to heal, sometimes they may heal quicker and sometimes late, it's all up to girls how they go about heart breaks

b) Girls have their own fears - we may say that we understand them fully but then a girl would always have that fear of failure- she doesn't want to be involved again in a heart break - its like getting rescued from a trench just to fall into a gorge.

c) Allow time and space - usually we tend to be too fast with our emotions and block that time and space that girl was enjoying till we encroached that; she was happy with her freedom. Make her realize that you won't snatch her freedom and personal space and this my friend requires time

d) Don't get too nervy and ask things you want to ask - i know you guys are intelligent enough to ask questions in a twisted manner just to know what running through her mind, but guess what my intelligent folks girls ain't that dumb either. So stop using those twisters and don't get itchy into asking her those questions, that makes her so irritated

e) Stop pretending that you know what's best and what will work - you all know that you are no experts when it comes to relationships, had you been one, you would have never been in such a situation so stop pretending that you know how she feels and you know how things will work at her end.

You know these may be things that we do know at times, but we do them involuntarily - just like the advise, every one loves to give that before even knowing the situation fully.

What best we can do is to actually make that time we spend with her special, make that time memorable- make her laugh , make her smile but maintain that gap of making her feel special, let time take its way and create a path for you to walk together. And when you probably get a good hold of each other, discuss your possibilities of getting together. Though a "No" always hurts but its still better than a heart break.