Answer to " The Relationship Change" - Expectation Management

There is no perfect recipe to the Relationship Soup, even if there is one it doesn't please everyone. It may work for one and may just fall apart for the other. So when there is no decisive recipe for the relationship mixture what do we need to do?? Where to go and find answers to all those questions jolting down in our heads. Trust me every single individual has a different problem, no single solution helps to solve that. One size doesn't fit all, though it appears similar but there are some intricate differences that make it personalized.

SO coming back to where we started from- How do we form the exact recipe for relationships ?? My answer to that question would be "Expectation Management". It not a recipe but a core ingredient that would allow you to make that Relationship Soup better. I have one core ingredient and rest is up to you guys how you need to cook it.

SO lets start with "Expectation Management" - Every Relationship sits on a dis-balanced proportion of Expectations from both sides. What ever may be the case the balance never remains perfect, it would always be dis-proportionate. The main reason behind that is that we never really understand the "Expectations" of the other person correctly in a relationship. Whether it is a parent and a child, two good friends, may be lovers, may be a family- husband and a wife. 

Relationship Balance

We just start the relationship engine without ever knowing where we are heading towards. Our destinations, objectives, assumptions, love, care every other thing may just be different but then we just want to kick start the relationship engine. Speaking of which this is what i call- "The Relationship Choke Problem- A starting Problem" which not addressed is surely to give you mid relationship crisis. Anyways we are here to talk about Expectation Management. The Relations that last long, have mutual trust, respect and loyalty have actually perfected the art of expectations management. There are different modes of managing expectations which we can discuss later.

Relationship Upgrade

Expectations if set right from the start is actually helpful in evolving the relationship. Though it requires periodic up-gradations like a software version up-gradation. But like wise if u get the initial code right, up-gradation can't be a permanent problem. Not dealing with expectations can create a huge pile of problems in any relationship which actually end up sour, people getting hurt, hearts are broken, trust lost and more importantly one starts evaluating every one on a single parameter and decisions become biased.So before getting into a relationship or just jumping in to it we must set our expectations right. There is no harm in sharing expectations and mutually respecting them. Once both the parties are aware of the expectations the relationship tone can easily be set up against it. Once expectations are set right, we can start believing that we are heading in the right direction but the destination is still far and we still have a lot of  distance to traverse.

Its not that this practice is not followed now a days but then people have forgotten the essence of this practice, which has been there from time immemorial. Its just that we guys don't learn from past, we can just learn from it momentarily and just get carried away.

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